This CHOOSEDAY is inspired by a post I saw of an interview of my friend Lisa Clifford about her book launch (more on that soon!). The question was, does introspection make you selfish? Of course this sparked something and made me want to look into it further. The definition of selfish is, according to the Oxford dictionary, “(of a person, action, or motive) lacking consideration for other people; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure.” And when you look

Well, here we are in 2026 already! January is often a time when we put so much pressure on ourselves by making resolutions, deciding in the heat of the moment what we want for the rest of the year, and making ourselves do things that perhaps our bodies aren’t quite ready for. January is actually a time when we should still be resting. We are deep in the depths of winter and all the sensible creatures are hibernating! So why is it that we humans feel the need to start racing?

This time of year can be mega stressful. Presents to buy and wrap. Food to plan. Visitors to cater for. Parties to go to. Nights out planned. And, just to top it off, if you live in Cumbria, the stress of the motorway closure on the first weekend in January!! There are many things that we can do to try and ease the stress, but here are my top 10: - 1. Plan ahead as much as possible 2. Maintain a little bit of “normal” 3. Remember that it’s ok to take time out 4. Keep in mind

This CHOOSEDAY is about being there… A couple of weeks ago I was invited to a Women’s Group to do an empowerment workshop. They had no idea what they were walking into when they signed up. All they knew was that the workshop was called Arrow Breaking! I watched them as they wrote things on the arrow that they wanted for themselves. And even that was a struggle for some. But they did it nonetheless. And then came the part when they break the arrow. As I demonstrated it, I coul

The last couple of weeks have been very thought provoking indeed for me. There have been challenges, hurts, celebrations and wins. A complete whirlwind of emotions! However, when reflecting on all of it, I have decided to make this CHOOSEDAY all about forgiveness. It’s a funny old thing forgiveness, and very often so hard to do. It usually involves releasing feelings of resentment or anger towards someone who has done us wrong. This isn’t just an acceptance of the situation,

This CHOOSEDAY marks the first day of the 16 days of action against domestic violence. The 16 Days of Action Against Domestic Violence is an international campaign that seeks to address and combat domestic violence, which disproportionately affects women and marginalized communities. However, it is not just those groups. Anyone can suffer domestic violence. The term domestic violence implies that there has to be actual violence to “qualify”. Also not true! It can be coercive

This CHOOSEDAY it’s all about being proud. Being proud of ourselves means to have an intense feeling of satisfaction and accomplishment for everything we have achieved and everything we are. It takes courage to be proud of ourselves because we have to recognise our strength and give ourself praise. But we also have to acknowledge when we perhaps haven’t been at our best. Possibly, one of the hardest parts of being proud of ourselves is actually recognising our own greatness.

As today is Armistice Day, this CHOOSEDAY is all about remembrance. 107 years ago today, at 11am, the fighting of the First World War ended. This was supposed to be the war the ended all wars, but as we know, this is not the case, and today there are still active conflicts worldwide. Remembrance is a general term for the act of remembering, reflecting on, and honoring the memory of people or events, which can take many forms beyond formal ceremonies.  Last Sunday, and today,

The last couple of weeks have been so busy, that this CHOOSEDAY has crept up on me a bit… Sometimes, it’s difficult to know what to write about when I’m under pressure!! But of course, I will give it a go. So here we are. November! Does anyone else wonder where the majority 2025 has gone? I must have missed the memo that time would be really nonexistent this year! But as I’m sat here reflecting on a few things, as the direction West makes us do, I have come to realise that th

This CHOOSEDAY is about being true… To be true is basically to tell the truth! Not only to others, but to ourselves. It is about being honest. This is not to be confused with integrity, which is more about being true to principles external to ourselves. Being true is about being original and not an imitation of someone or something else or trying to be who we believe others think we should be. Staying true to our own personality, values, and spirit, regardless of the pressur

This CHOOSEDAY doesn’t really have a title. Mainly because I don’t think it needs one, but also, I didn’t want to confine or try to define what this CHOOSEDAY is all about! I saw a quote the other day that really resonated with me and it reads like this: - Someone asked me “why do you stop talking to some people without explanation?” I replied “Because those people know what they have done and I am not about to address anything to a grown person. They moved how they moved and

This CHOOSEDAY is all about comparison. It is a fact that at some point in our lives we have all compared ourselves to someone else. Why can’t I be as creative as her? Why is he so much better at whatever it is than me? Why can’t I be as free as them? Well the short and simple answer is this… You can be as good as or as free as anyone, but it will not be like anyone else. It will be in your own unique way! Not one person on this planet is the same as anyone else. Even identic

This CHOOSEDAY is all about being fearless… With the super hunter moon energies bringing empowering and motivating energies with it, we are encouraged to prioritise and have the courage to be fearless!! But what does it mean to be fearless? For me it is not to be without fear, for I believe that a little bit of fear motivates us to challenge ourselves. In Khoisan languages, indigenous to Southern Africa, they have a word n/um. Although, translations of this word vary dramatic

This CHOOSEDAY is all about reiki. Well to be fair every day is about reiki, but today is about Holy Fire® Reiki!! Last week I completed...

This CHOOSEDAY is all about 12 strangers that came together for an event that they had no idea about, but thought they might want to give...

This CHOOSEDAY is all about Ego! I find the ego to be a funny old thing. It can make us feel superior one day and inferior the next. The...

This CHOOSEDAY, and also yesterday’s Monday motivation, is inspired by some good friends of mine. It isn’t about resilience.  It isn’t...

This CHOOSEDAY is all about community! I find that it’s so important to be part of at least one community. So what actually is a...

This CHOOSEDAY is about teachers. As the quote from Monday motivation said everything in life is our teacher. I believe this to be...

This CHOOSEDAY is more musings following my time away! Before I went up to Lendrick, I had a conversation with someone that really...